Counselling, Psycho-sexual Psychotherapy and Sexual Addiction Treatment
Sex and Love Addiction
Sex Addiction is a ‘label’ that is often misused, and a problem which is largely misunderstood. I work with more and more individuals whose pattern of sexual behaviour feels out of control. Often sexually compulsive behaviour is causing either themselves or their loved one considerable distress. This is not about having a high sex drive; the behaviour has often escalated to a level which feels out of control; increasingly risky; and there are potential harmful consequences to continuing. My clients often face losing their partner, wife or family if they are unable to stop. Some are putting their jobs at risk, others their health; and maybe even their liberty if the behaviour has strayed into illegal territory.
Commonly, today, with the popularity of smart phones, tablets and other portable wireless devices, the prevalence of internet porn and sex chat rooms has become a real problem for some. Often it’s a case of being on line for hours, being pre-occupied with going on line, or creating opportunities to meet up with others from the sites for risky sexual encounters.
But porn addiction is a fairly specific issue. There are a whole host of other activities which can become a problem in some cases, usually because the individual would like to stop, has tried to stop, but is simply unable to stop…such as engaging in excessive and costly telephone sex, visiting massage parlours, the use of paid sex workers, multiple affairs, swinging sites etc.
I hold the Professional Certificate in Sexual Addiction Treatment, to enable me to offer assessment and treatment to those who are experiencing distress or shame around their sexual behaviour.